About Gayle

Gayle is a Social Media Enthusiast and Consultant with Biz Buzz Social Media Marketing; co-owner of Glynne's Soaps; a dalmatian rescuer; genealogist and member of the Daughters of the Revolution (DAR) and of the United Daughters of the Confederacy (UDC); a Cubs Fanatic; hopeful bagpiper; purveyor of positive; and a curious seeker of life.

Branches

Yesterday I preached for the Harbor District Lay Servant Ministries Committee. Here’s my sermon:

I have a confession. I am a horrible gardener!

I can, and do kill most any plant –

I either love it too much or not enough

I either cut it back too far or let it grow out of control

I am not proud to say…..I can kill mint!

In our scripture today is John 15: 1-8 (reading from the common English bible)

“I am the true vine, and my Father is the vineyard keeper. He removes any of my branches that don’t produce fruit, and he trims any branch that produces fruit so that it will produce even more fruit. You are already trimmed because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. A branch can’t produce fruit by itself, but must remain in the vine. Likewise, you can’t produce fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, then you will produce much fruit. Without me, you can’t do anything. If you don’t remain in me, you will be like a branch that is thrown out and dries up. Those branches are gathered up, thrown into a fire, and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask for whatever you want and it will be done for you. My Father is glorified when you produce much fruit and in this way prove that you are my disciples.

 

There is a whole lot to unpack in these verses. But tonight we are going to focus on the concept of pruning. As I have already stated, I was not blessed with my grandmother’s green thumb…but I don’t let that stop me from trying!

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I have a lovely orange tree. It took me a couple of years to learn how to keep it alive over the winter months. Then, year before last, it was full of blooms that turned to mini-oranges! I was beyond excited! The one day all my mini-oranges fell off. I was devastated. So I consulted a master gardener, who told me that I needed to remove most of the mini-oranges because the tree could not support so many. Last year, my tree was again full of mini-oranges…but I couldn’t decide which to remove and which to keep. I didn’t know how many to remove and how many to keep. And in the end, once again they all fell off.

Do you ever feel like your life is a lot like my orange tree?

You have all these wonderful ideas and like the mini-oranges they are plentiful. And at first you try to do everything! Only to have nothing work out well. Or we have all these great fruits that are growing so well, we begin to think we are the cause of the growth. We start to think we are the vine or the root! But we are not the vine. We are not the root.

God is God. And we are not.

Our scripture tells us that God removes any of my branches that don’t produce fruit, and he trims any branch that produces fruit so that it will produce even more fruit. Have you ever wondered what that might look like?

d25fb0de67b19d92011d8d018f0bf253My dad was a woodworker. I can remember when I was a child learning to use a new tool having my dad place his hand over mine to guide my actions….and later standing by me on my first solo cuts.

Most often when God is pruning us, God, like my daddy, is guiding us, or standing close by as we make the cuts. But How do we know what to cut?

We must be willing to listen to and for God, through the Bible, Through prayer and meditation, and through our holy friends who hold us accountable. However, there are two things I can tell you tonight you need to prune:

Wayne Corderiro, the founding pastor of New Hope Christian Fellowship in Honolulu calls pruning ‘protecting the 5%’. He says that 95% or what we do in life others can do – Your job, housework, our volunteer activities, and on and on. But there is 5% only you can do. Only you can be a parent to your children, or a husband or wife to your spouse, only you can take care of your body, or your soul and we must regularly prune our schedule and lives to be sure we do those things….and do them well.

Secondly we must cut away the dead branches of our lives. The regrets, our pasts, our envy, bitterness or resentment. These things are dead wood we are carrying that we need to stop allowing to take up space on our branch. We need to remove it from our lives so that we have room for God’s fruit.

Jesus tells us in verse 5 that he is the vine; and we are the branches. If we remain in Jesus, then we will produce much fruit. Without Jesus, we can’t do anything.

Not too long ago I was trying to cut a vine out of some bushes in my yard, when I noticed that this vine had grown this long wispy branch that was 4-5 feet long that was reaching for a tree…and I thought, how does this vine know there is a tree to reach for? It’s just a plant.

I’ve since learned that it is a process called phototropism. Plants have a hormone called auxin that enables them to grow toward the sunlight so that they can go through the process of photosynthesis and feed itself.

God created us just like the vine in my yard. We too must grow toward the son of God to be fed and to grow and produce fruit. As Paul says in Philippians 3  It’s not that I have already reached this goal or have already been perfected, but I pursue it, so that I may grab hold of it because Christ grabbed hold of me for just this purpose. 13 Brothers and sisters, I myself don’t think I’ve reached it, but I do this one thing: I forget about the things behind me and reach out for the things ahead of me. 14 The goal I pursue is the prize of God’s upward call in Christ Jesus.

God – You are the master gardener of our lives. We long to be rooted in you and growing toward you. Guide us as we prune those things that distract us, and those things that  make is feel busy but are not productive. God take from us deadwood of our past, our resentfulness and envy. Make us like the light wispy branch reaching toward your light. – Amen

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Comfort over Action

I was tasked with presenting a sermon in prophetic voice. Here it is:

 

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Riding Into Lent

Lego Ash WednesdayRiding my bike daily is one of the practices I have decided to take up for Lent. While we often think of Lent being a time when we give up something or when we take up a ‘spiritual practice’, something like prayer or alms giving, Lent can also be a time of reflection, repentance, and change. I need to turn from my unhealthy practices I have fallen into and take up healthy practices – my bike is quite literally a vehicle of change.

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My goal is to ride 40 minutes each day for the 40 days of Lent. There is no speed goal. No distance goal. Only time and movement. The first day I fell short by 9 minutes. On day 2 Jenn rode with me and as I came to the point when my driveway was – RIGHT THERE – Jenn said, “Want to ride to the end of the street and back?” My head screamed NO! My legs concurred. But my mouth said “Sure”, because I didn’t want to appear weak and we rode a loop that gave us the extra 5 minutes we lacked to have gone the entire 40 minutes.

As we were out for our ride, we came to a place where the road is dirt (sand actually), that gives way to broken pavement and loose gravel. To make this all the more treacherous it’s a decent downward incline (I live in Southeastern NC, most everything is pretty flat) with a giant mud puddle at the end. As I was riding I was constantly looking ahead, choosing my path though the danger that created the possibilities for a crash. My safest way was very clear. I began to think about how easy it was for me to see the safest path and direct my bike tires to follow. Which reminded me of a scripture I loved as a teen Proverbs 3:5-6 (CEB)

Trust in the Lord with all your heart;
don’t rely on your own intelligence.
Know him in all your paths,
and he will keep your ways straight.

It was easy for me to trust my own judgment in choosing the path for my bike tires to follow yesterday. I was confident and self-assured that I would not fall and I would safely stay on my bike. But seeing life’s path is not as confident a place for me. Seeing God’s path for me isn’t always clear but  staying on God’s path is even harder. I don’t think I am alone in this struggle.

So, in this season of Lent, while riding my bike, I’ll be meditating on God’s path (while watching for cars and loose impediments); and engaging with those who can help me discern my path and spur me on.

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Holiday Spirit

I am not feeling much of a holiday spirit this year. As usual, I can find many reasons to explain why ‘THIS” year I don’t feel the spirit – but the reality is it’s every year. Christmas is stressful! From what do you want for Christmas; shopping; and gatherings; to shopping, decorating; and gathering….it is all stress!

Yesterday, I said a line I think I say every year “I want to like Christmas!” to which Jenn replied “Yeah, you like the idea of Christmas – reality not so much.”

I saw this video touted as the best holiday video this year, Maybe it is! Although I don’t know what’s Christmasy.

It’s a cute video! With a cute dog (always a bonus in my book). I read it was filmed in Poland in English. I hope it helps you find your Christmas Spirit!

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A Morning Saga

This morning I awoke to outside temperature of about 32 degrees….our first frost of the season. Last nigh, we had turned on our heat for the first time this fall. Over night we had run  out of heating oil and the house was about 50degrees…..BURRRRR. Obviously, I needed to get heating oil.

Anyway, I called the company I deal with, Atlantic Coast Oil and Lubes. The owner, Randy, answered the phone. I told him who I was, and that I needed oil, he asked if today or tomorrow was okay…I said sure but I’m out…he said today it is. See you about noon.

Just about noon, I saw the truck pull in my drive…. and oil was delivered! Probably there are many companies I could have called. But Randy had not been here in over a year….but still didn’t need my address (he remembered me). He made it a priority to be sure I got heat (he always does when I mess up and run out).

This is why I believe in doing business with locally owned and operated businesses. Customer service matters!! If you live in Wilmington and have a need for fuel oil, call Randy! He’s a good guy.

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There are No Loopholes

In case you missed it, there was an election in the United States last week. It was a particularly nasty run-up to this election; the worst I can remember in my almost 54 years. I’m not sure what was the worst in our history but History.com lists seven as the most contentious US elections (1800, 1824, 1860, 1876, 1912, 1948 and 2000). In my humble opinion, we have a new one topping the list. So since the election I have been trying to find some perspective. And this story keeps rattling around in my head. It’s a story we no doubt know, we learned it in Sunday School.

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I must admit to spending time labeling people I know as characters of this story. Who is the man on the side of the road? Who is the Priest or the Levite? Who is the Samaritan? Sadly, I label people in my mind as a way of shaming them. A way of diminishing what they think or what they do (or more often don’t do).

All of us are the lawyer

This week I have come to realize, I am attaching the wrong labels (at least part of the time). In this story, we are, ALL OF US, the lawyer. We know what we should be doing – “loving the Lord our God with all our heart, and with all our soul, and with all our strength, and with all our mind; and our neighbor as ourselves” – but we, like the lawyer look for the loophole.

We want there to be a reason we do not have to love someone.

They’re too brown.
They’re too white.
They’re too liberal.
They’re too conservative.
They’re too religious.
They’re not religious enough, or heaven forbid their religion is different from mine.
They’re too straight.
They’re too gay.
Their family arrived in the US yesterday.
Their family fought in the Revolutionary War (or somewhere in between).

There are as many reasons to decide someone is not our neighbor as there are ways we are all individuals, with our own loves and dislikes. God knows, we have our own opinions! But you know, that’s what has always made this country a pretty cool place.

We’re Far from Perfect

Not perfect! Far from it. We have much work to do! There is great injustice. We are overrun with hatred. As a society, we are incredibly self-centered and egotistical. We are seemingly less tolerant of others than we have ever been. The divide between socio-economic groups is widening. There are problems! Major MAJOR problems!  But at the end of the day we are all neighbors. And even in this past week, I have had wonderful love and support from my friends on both sides. I’ve engaged in meaningful conversation with those with whom I greatly disagree but the conversation was civil and in the end, I still love them, and they me.

There is Only Love

Which is the point I think Jesus is trying to make. There are no loopholes. There is only love.
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