Inspire Yourself by Inspiring Others

This past weekend was an interesting weekend. Jenn participated in the PPD Beach 2 Battleship Triathlon on Saturday. I am sure she will write about that experience on her blog and I won’t steal her thunder.

However, I was inspired just as the person ‘hanging around’ waiting for the finish. I saw strangers comfort each other when they were unable to continue. I saw strangers cheering and encouraging each other. I saw people making an effort (while they were focused on their own race) to support and root for for others who were struggling.

It was inspiring!

I walked away on Saturday thinking how awesome it would be if in our everyday life we looked at those around us and realized we are all in the same race – The race of life.

What if we took the time to notice (while running our own race) those around us who are struggling and offered them encouragement?

What if we made more of an effort to look outside our own struggles and became aware of those around us?

I have no doubt a man I saw on Saturday standing with his bike, gulping water (or some power drink), yelling to another athlete, “DON’T QUIT” was really talking to himself. I also know in everyday life it is not as easy to just yell at some stranger “DON’T QUIT”. It is harder to see others struggles.

However, think with me. Think of family. Think of Friends. Think of co-workers. Think of just people you know.

How many people do you know that are or may be struggling with something in their life?

I came up with a long list!

I included myself on the list! As a matter of fact, I’m going to go out on a not very long limb and say we all are struggling.  Our struggles are not the same. Just as the triathletes had different challenges along the way. For some it was the swim, others the bike and still others the run (and any host of subsets within those challenges). Although I am no triathlete, I will say with all confidence that every athlete who participated, struggled! From the first place finisher to the last place finisher.

How hard would it be to pick up the phone and offer a word of encouragement to those on your list? Perhaps you’d prefer to send them a card in the mail. Maybe it’s easiest to write a note on their facebook wall (or my fav tweet them).

My challenge to you this week -Think of seven people you can encourage. And


Send ’em a note. Give ’em a call. Figure out how you’re going to yell “DON’T QUIT” figure out what you can do that is equivalent to ringing a cowbell and cheering them on! Perhaps what you’ll find is that you will feel more encouraged. Perhaps what you’ll find is that you just feel better for helping someone else along their journey. Perhaps at the end of your seven people (yes, that’s one each day for a week) you’ll wish to find seven more.

By the Way, I think you’re AWESOME! Keep up the good work 🙂

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You Are Here

Yesterday began as any other Saturday for me. The alarm sounded before 6am. I avoided getting out of bed. Then rushed to leave the house and to arrive at and be set up for the Carolina Beach Farmers Market before eight o’clock. At the conclusion of market we broke down, had lunch with friends, unloaded the truck then headed to the couch and relaxation. On an ordinary Saturday my day would have ended there….on the couch!

I often think about, and occasionally will even voice, my lamentations over the life I used to have (full of fun as I recall) and the life I want to have (full of fun) and the life I am living (napping on the couch).

Yesterday, I broke with the norm and after a short nap I, although still tired, got up and got dressed and headed out to a Derby Party. We have been invited to the Derby Party for several years, we always want to attend, but it has conflicted with Mother’s Day. This year there was no such conflict.

Upon returning home last night, I was so glad I forced myself off the couch; Even though at the time I wanted to continue my nap. When I awoke this morning, I had a revelation booming in my head –


This is Your Life! You are here!


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It might be nice to be able to look down at your feet and see a dot that said ‘You Are Here – Is this where you want/need to be?’ However, in real life we do not get these visual reminders. So we must remind ourselves that –

You can not live the life you want by dreaming, wishing, or imagining. Living the life you want requires action, engagement, and motion.

You see, I have been lamenting not having the life, experiences, et cetera I want while making excuses for why I can’t/won’t do the things necessary to have the life, experiences, et cetera I want. If I (or you) want to have a life full of more than napping on the couch, we must get off the couch and Do something!

The memories of all my fun times were made because I got off the couch and did something. My ideas of what will be fun are all of things to do and not napping on the couch.

What are you doing today?

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I love the movie Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid. In the movie, there is a scene where Butch Cassidy (Paul Newman) and The Kid (Robert Redford) are being pursued by a small but skillful posse. At first we see Butch and the Kid try to out run those in pursuit. Then they try trickery and hiding among the mountains. Eventually our heroes come to a point where the only choices are be captured or jump off the mountain into a raging river. At times responsibilities and pursuing goals can feel this way.

We run, we avoid, we try tricks and eventually our only choices are to admit defeat or JUMP!

The Famous Jump

I certainly can’t speak for everyone, but my favorite trick for avoidance….the internet. I can spend hours in ‘research’. Or another ruse is ‘let’s go get lunch’ or ‘run errands’.

How much easier would our lives have been had we just jumped from the start?

How much more could we accomplish if we took the bull-by-the-horns first? What if instead of making excuses or rushing to meet a deadline we did things early? Imagine a world where instead of wasting time in avoidance we had time for the things we love and want to do.

Try it today.

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Sharing is what it is ALL about

Part of the way I feed, clothe and have the ability to live indoors, is the use of social media. In case you are reading this and want to ask the question my mother asked last week ‘SOCIAL MEDIA, what’s that?’ The answer is social media is any avenue that acts socially using online technology. Because keeping up with the trends in social media and being well versed in using social media sights is my job, I’ve been spending time on Pinterest lately (that’s my story and I’m sticking to it).

What my time on Pinterest has taught me is, well, there are so many delectable foods in the world AND people love to share inspirational sayings. Some are cute. Some are insightful. Others are funny or witty. Which has me thinking, why do we love to share them so much?

After minutes of solicitous consideration, I believe I have the answer. We share the sayings for the same reason I write this blog….we want to inspire OURSELVES to be better. We believe that if we can live by the saying just for today we can improve our lives. Maybe we think we can magically hold on to the feeling we felt when we read that bit of inspiration. Maybe we want to share that feeling with others.

My post today is light hearted, but my message is serious. Get inspired! Find the thing that moves you and share! Share it with your spouse, your friends, and even the world!


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Paint a Picture with Words

I heard a story recently, it went something like this….

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.

His bed was next to the room’s only window

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation..

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.

Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats.. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man could not hear the band – he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days, weeks and months passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.

He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed.

It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

Sometimes we are best able to encourage people not by what we see, but in what we see for them.  What pictures are your words painting for your friends and family today? Are your words a picture of encouragement?

How are you encouraging others today?


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Your Goal is reaching Your Goal

Do you have a goal? Sure you do. It could be simple stuff…like, get out of bed each day. It could be fun stuff like read the stay on target blog everyday. Maybe it’s to find your dream job and live a better life. It doesn’t matter because these six simple steps will help you to achieve your goal!

1. Believe in your own success

If you DON’T believe you can do it, who will? Develop a belief in yourself! Learn to motivate yourself. You can hire a goal coach, like Coach T but, in the end, all you’ll ever have is you and your goal. You must do what is necessary to create greatness.

2. Mental Visualization

See the result you want clearly. Rehearse it over and over again in your mind. Athletes do this all the time and so can you. Seeing your success removes doubt, and builds confidence. See what you want and put yourself in the picture

3. Never Give up

Persistence is the key that unlocks the door. All the wonders of the success you deserve are waiting just on the other side of the locked door. Your success may not come when you want it but with perseverance it will come.

4. Take 100% Responsibility

Empowerment to reach your goal will come when you learn to take 100 percent responsibility for your life. Be the CEO of your life.

5. Focus on Important Tasks

Tune out the nay-Sayers and the over stimulating noise of the world around you and focus on your goal and the tasks you need to accomplish to realize your goal.

6. Have a deadline

Do yourself a solid favor and make a deadline for your goal. A deadline will keep you motivated, prevent procrastination and move you towards your dreams. And the reality is your goal is reaching your goal.

What are you waiting for? Get Started!


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