What to do when EVERYONE is against you

I suppose there is a time in everyone’s life when we feel like the person in the above cartoon. It is especially true when you start to make changes in your life. You have decided to pursue your dream. You are excited and then those close to you (or maybe even strangers) rain on your parade.

So what do you do, when it feels like the whole world is voting against you? Sure you can sing the little childhood ditty ‘Nobody like me, everybody hates me, guess I’ll go eat worms’  and give up; or you can have a more adult response and do something.

Here are a few ideas and some things you can do:

  1. Make sure that whatever you are doing is something you really want to pursue. Is this something that will make you happier? Will it improve the quality of your life? If so, embrace it and move on to step two. If not, it is time to examine why you are doing it in the first place.
  2. Remember this is the ONLY life you get, so make the most of it. If you are not happy with your life and you know a way to change that, go for it. This is your dream! Get to it!
  3. If you keep thinking that you wish someone would understand, try explaining it to him or her.  It sounds simple, but give them a chance to understand why you are following your dream and ask for their support.
  4. Realize there are some people who will never understand nor are they capable of being supportive. Perhaps they gave up their dream and are bitter about anyone who pursues their dream. They are playing the role of the spoiler. Maybe they are stuck in their ways, steadfast in their opinions, and no matter how hard you try, you won’t change their mind. Decide you cannot please everybody and move on (this is not easy but possible).
  5. Do not let someone else’s negativity ruin your happiness. Do not become consumed with other people’s opinion. The truth is, you will never control their reactions. It is time to put you first and follow your dream.
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