The problem isn’t your goals, or that you will just always be a failure. The problem is that you go about setting your goals the wrong way. Long term goals are great, but what you need are short term goals that put you on the right path toward your long term goals.
are you spending more time and energy planning your weekends or planning your life?
Attaining your goals is not like winning a contest. Crossing your fingers and hoping you are the right caller will not make your desires come to life. All it will get you is more of the same.
Knowing who you are is a key component to knowing where you want to go and the best way to get there.
In the July issue of Scientific American Mind, an article on “The Willpower Paradox” caught my attention. The article is about surprising findings from The University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign on the connection between willingness and willfulness.