create a new habit – Gayle Tabor

One Day – Two Day – Three Day – Four Day….Equals A Lifetime

2013/04/29 Gayle 0

A few weeks ago I picked up a book and skimmed a few pages. When I picked the book up I knew it really held no interest for me, I don’t really recall the name or who wrote it. The title was something like “What’s it like to be married to me?” I am very certain I do not wish to know the answer to this question – so, why read the book! However, in my short perusal, I encountered an idea that so perfectly dove-tailed with something I have been thinking and meditating on for most of this year – allow me to share. The story in the book invites you to imagine that 30 years in the future you are attending a funeral. The rest of the story

Overcoming Your Negative Addiction

2011/10/12 Gayle 0

Yesterday we talked about why it sometimes feels so good to be negative. We learned about how negative emotions can feed the pleasure center as much as truly pleasurable things. As it turns out, pain and negative emotions (e.g. self-pity, anger, guilt) also activate the beta-endorphin and dopamine pathways. So negative is addicting, now what? Today let’s talk about how to change our negative thinking. Your addiction to the negative is serving a need. What is that need? The first step is to discover the perceived deficit in you that creates your need to diminish someone else. Perhaps you look at others and are negative about their appearance because you are unhappy with your own image. Perhaps you are targeting yourself with your negative thoughts. Again, The rest of the story

Are Your Thoughts Ruining Your Life?

2011/03/29 Gayle 0

Do you ever feel like you fall into a convolution spiral of negativity? It is like a tornado that blows through your existence. The negativity may not destroy everything, but at the very least it rearranges and creates havoc from what was the order of your life. It only takes the one little gust of negative to start whirling around in your brain and soon it picks up other negative thoughts, about you, your job, other people, etc etc etc. Then the dark clouds of depression and inactivity arrive. Soon the world seems bleak and unmanageable. The negative attracts more negative until you are a ball of negative energy spreading your unhappiness to the rest of the world. In this negative state it seems impossible The rest of the story

Reach Your Goals Like a Man (or Woman)

2010/09/02 Gayle 0

We recently watched a PBS documentary about Benjamin Franklin. It was very interesting and I highly recommend it. One thing that struck me about Franklin was his devotion to the greater good. He was not just interested in what was best for himself, but wanted to always do what was best for his community and his country. He was very involved in starting local libraries, hospitals and volunteer fire departments. Benjamin Franklin was also committed to living a life of virtue. The word virtue is often used when speaking of a woman and her chastity, but the true meaning of the word, which is derived from Latin is manliness. In order to live a life of virtue, Franklin came up with 13 characteristics The rest of the story

Productive Imagination

2010/07/25 Gayle 0

Once we have reached adulthood, frequently we put aside the imagination skills we learned as children. We join the work force of life and we stop imagining. Daydreaming is considered a complete waste of time and effort and daydreaming is associated with being non-productivity.

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