self speak – Gayle Tabor

I hear what you’re saying, do you?

2011/10/17 Gayle 1

I spent some time with my friend Dorrie this past weekend. We enjoyed some fresh shrimp and a blazing fire pit on a chilly fall evening. Dorrie is one of those people I just enjoy spending time with; she’s intelligent, funny, and the kind of friend who will and does go out of her way to help. Dorrie is a little over weight and she constantly makes reference to the fact that she never walks anywhere, she waddles. She constantly makes reference to her ‘fat butt’ or calls herself rotund. For years, I have considered that Dorrie has been hurt by other people’s comments about her size and she was taking the strike first approach. She would say it before anyone could even think it. The rest of the story

You Can’t Choose Others Thoughts but Can Own Yours

2011/09/15 Gayle 0

Today I am taking a few days off to celebrate my 14th Anniversary. I still want to leave you inspired. So head on over to Chris Brogan’s Blog and read about untangling you life from those around you. As Chris says ‘We can’t choose how our relatives feel about us. We can’t choose how our loved ones think about us and react to us. We can’t alter how those people at work speak about us when we’re not there. None of that is ours. YOU OWN YOUR HEAD What you can do, however, is work on yourself, is accept yourself as you are right now, is start to fuel your own personal inner fire of belief without any external sources. It’s not that you don’t The rest of the story

Stop Sabotaging Your Mood

2011/09/13 Gayle 0

Want to solve a problem? You can improve your problem solving skills by inducing a positive mood. If you can get yourself to a positive mood, you can improve your cognitive flexibility. Sound crazy? A 2010 study in Psychological Science shows that inducing a positive mood can improve one’s cognitive flexibility. The question then is how do you get into a good mood and how do you stay there? Probably if you really thought about it, you could find the ‘trigger’ got most bad moods. Perhaps your spouse spoke sharply to you or you were unable to fit into your favorite outfit due to the five pounds you recently gained. Consider in these examples the role that your thoughts play in all this. It wasn’t the event that was the root of The rest of the story

Do you have Brave thoughts?

2011/09/12 Gayle 1

In July of 2011 I wrote a post about tuning in and listening to the words you use when you talk to yourself. The title was You are Exactly what you Think and I am in need of a refresher. Want to know who you are? Tune in to the conversation inside your head. Your thoughts accurately reflect who you think you are. I read a statement last week that said something to the effect that the worst thing someone could say to us in an argument is something we already fear (or know) to be true. The voices in our head know the truth. The voices know if we are procrastinating. They know when we lie (to ourselves or others). The voices also know The rest of the story

The oak tree is the purpose of an acorn

2010/10/01 Gayle 0

The oak tree is the purpose of an acorn. Rather than being that little acorn fulfilling a purpose of growing into an oak tree, I was forever stuck as a sapling. I was scaling down my dreams to fit what I could easily accomplish. Are you living a life of enough? Or are you living the life of a towering oak?

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